Kitty Blackadder

A Scottish blog about anxiety, minimalism and eyeshadow.

Friday, 10 February 2017

The Cabinet.


When Kenny and I moved into our flat we didn't have a lot of money and so we were incredibly lucky that the previous owner left us all his furniture (actually, he just packed a suitcase and moved out so he also left cupboards full of food, his slippers by the bed and 72,000 containers of shoe polish, but that's a story for another day...). Anyway, yes, we were very, very fortunate not to need to worry about buying furniture or appliances for the flat at all initially, however, as grateful as I am, there were two big downsides to this. 1) I got kinda lazy about the furniture. I really didn't like a lot of it, but hey, I mean, it was there. Even when I did have decent money coming in, I kind of didn't bother to even look on GumTree or anything for something I liked more (we live on a third floor flat, so moving furniture in and out is not the most fun thing ever), so I was never really happy with how the place looked. When people came round I often felt uncomfortable. 2) You know how they say that fish grow as big as their pond/tank allows them to? Well, I did that with my posessions. If there were 8 drawers to fill, I just kept shopping and filled them. Whereas if we had initially had zero furniture, and everything was in bags on the floor, I think I'd have been much more aware of what I owned.

Over the 2 years we've been here, we've been able to swap out almost everything in the living room and kitchen area (except the sofa, which is filthy underneath the 20 blankets covering it, but I swear it is the COMFIEST sofa of all time...), but until very recently there was still one hold-out from the original storage-set. The Cabinet. It was actually one of a pair, which, for most of the two years we've been here were JAMMED full of stuff - to the point where I couldn't close the drawers a lot of the time. Then, when my KonMari-ing hit full swing last Autumn, we finally got rid of one. FINALLY. The other one was still an absolute mess though, in fact, I think I somehow smooshed contents from the first cabinet into The Cabinet, just so I could actually get rid of one. It was just this huge, unworkable mass of stuff that for whatever reason, I just could not break down. I mean, I think I knew, even then that most of it was 'junk' (as in, dead weight, things that didn't add any value to my life, not actually broken things) but I just couldn't see how I could possibly reduce it. Eventually, after a lot (and I do mean, a lot) of discussion, Kenny and I decided to pick up a set of the tall Malm drawers from IKEA to replace the cabinet - a lot shorter and neater, and more in line with the other furniture in the room, but still a lot of storage. We picked a day to go and get them and on the day I just shrugged off the plans. Time, and time again.  Day after day.

I don't even know why the whole thing bothered me so much. Given the size of the room, it certainly wouldn't have looked 'too much' to have the Malm drawers there, and let's face it, if we ever didn't need them, we could shift them on GumTree or Free Cycle, really quickly. But it bugged me. I would just stand and stare at that cabinet. Then open a drawer. Then close the drawer.


Over the Christmas period I managed to pick up some retail work, which saw me doing a lot of hours and I swear, literally every day I would come home and stand at the doorway and just glare at that stupid Cabinet, filled with all my stupid stuff. Knowing I had no time to deal with it, suddenly lit a fire under me to face up to it at the first possible opportunity. So January 1st rolled around, the tree came down, my contract ended and I had time to finally take care of the thing - finally.

Going through this Cabinet is the only time I've really been angry or frustrated with myself during the whole decluttering process. Usually, even if I feel inner turmoil or I'm just not thinking rationally, I'll just kind of let it go that day and go back to it when I'm in a better zone. But not this Cabinet. Inside it was my 'memories' drawer, my art supplies, my documets (which actually, if you consider the fact I'm a collage artist who works in quite a frenzied manner, perhaps storing necessary documents right next to scrap paper for collage was a really bad idea...), just paper, paper, paper. Piles of it lying about the floor, stacks and flurries and the cat making a nest with some. I was so angry; angry at myself for keeping SO MUCH PAPER, angry at the fact I'd moved almost all of it into this flat with me two years ago, angry that I didn't practice my art much any more, angry at finding that document I thought I'd lost... for some reason, this Cabinet just took me to a bad place.


So this was the only time I broke the 'hold each item and see if it sparks joy' criteria. I just couldn't. Not with this Cabinet. Not with this paper. I separated the documents, because I had to, and then with all the art paper I just grabbed chunks and bagged them to donate. I filled bags and bags. I kept barely anything at all actually; sitting deliberating between shades of salmon paper just seemed so ludicrous all of a sudden. Honestly, I still have no idea what I all got rid of - which I think says something in itself. All that paper, all those pens that over my years as an art student I researched and shopped for, cared for, used, shared and loved. I sat there looking at it all, and realising that I couldn't even tell you specifically what a lot of it was for (I mean, I still know what a pen does, but I couldn't tell you why I liked a certain brand or which ink was the blackest), and it made me really sad. I didn't just study art at university, I freaking lived it for years. I made art every day, almost subconsciously, as naturally as breathing and now, it would be about as natural as that scene where Bambi takes to the ice. I do still draw, sometimes, sort of, but the person I was years ago at uni was in that Cabinet and in a lot of ways I was saying goodbye to her. I don't understand what changed and why I broke away so much from my art, and I think I just sort of froze everything in time, hoping that someday I'd figure it out, and maybe I will, maybe one day it'll all come flooding back, but for now, it hurts too much to look at it all everyday and wonder why I lost what I did. So it's almost all gone.


The Cabinet, the empty shell that it was in the end, is gone too, and nothing was bought to replace it. I moved over drawers I already had, and we got a lamp (because our ceiling light is as atmospheric as grocery store lighting) and now that corner feels like me, like part of my home. I have claimed that space and banished The Cabinet. But it still makes me a little sad. Yes, it feels like me now, yes I no longer spend time glaring at that corner of the room, but I guess it raises other questions too, about who 'me' is. About why I don't practice my art much, about the feeling of disconnect - of trying to understand if I'm meant to say goodbye to that part of myself, or dig her out from under all the makeup and candles. Art student me would have hated this room. But I am not art student me. I'm mid-twenties me, I'm enagaged to be married me, I'm anxious and minimalist and Glaswegian me. Or am I? How do I know? How can I tell? Who the fuck am I?

So the Cabinet is gone, taking it's prescence; it's weight and shadow with it. Out of sight, out of mind I guess. I hoped emptying it out would close the chapter and let me move on - that making a firm decision would have earned me some closure. But it hasn't. The Cabinet is gone but the doubt remains. I don't regret physically letting go of... well, whatever it was that went, but I do wonder where the path is taking me now. To loop back around to my art with fresh eyes, and someday end up with another cabinet of paper, or to continue to move further away from one of the keystones of my identity.

Stupid Cabinet.

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